Any issues I have, I can deal with now.
No matter where I am, who I am with, what I am doing,
It is not other things, people or places keeping me from achieving them
It is me.
I am the only one limiting myself.
If I can’t deal with issues now,
they will continue to be there always.
Even if I change environments,
they will still be there.
We often tell ourselves
I just need to change the people I hang around with
I need to be alone
Once this or that happens (something in the future normally), then I can change
We believe that changing our environment will allow us to change
But it’s not about changing your environment
(Granted it can help, it can make the transition easier, but it is not necessary)
It’s about changing within
It’s a combination of
Changing your mind
Changing your habits, your actions
-Issues I have are with myself
No matter who I am with,
They will continue to be an issue,
It does not disappear,
So changing relationships will not fix things
-I need to be alone to deal with my issues
But they will come back when you are not alone
If you only know how to deal with them alone
You will at some point still have to learn how to deal with them with people around you
(Bring the people back, bring the issues back)
Can learn to be alone, without being alone
-Once I get this, then I can face my issues
(This example triggers the following sayings:)
-There is no moment like the present.
-There is no better time than now.
-Tomorrow may not come.
-Love like you will lose your loves.
-Enjoy the moment like it is your last.
But that last saying does not translate to: YOLO
In the sense:
Let’s drink and do drugs and forget about everything
Because these are simply distractions
(It is important to make sure they are not used to fill a void)
The best moments in life are:
-When you have caught yourself thinking: I am so happy right now
-The moments where you are smiling to yourself,
-The moments where you are taking in everything around you,
And you are at peace, and content, and grateful to be alive
Rare is it that these moments are when you are completely intoxicated
(Granted, some good memories can occur during slight intoxication,
But it is not necessary,
and abuse of it doesn’t leave anyone feeling good)
But more often it is when you are alone and loving yourself
Or surrounded by people you love with laughter and music in the air
Or a moment of silence, lying side by side, with a lover or even a stranger
When there is sun on your face
When there is rain on your skin
These are the moments that invigorate you
These are the moments that you remember.
(We remember our best and worst moments)
Both of which make us stronger